Loss: The feeling of grief, after some tangible or intangible thing of value has been taken away from you.
In the last few months, I have woken up a couple of times in the still of the night with a deep burden in my heart. Many of those nights, I have found solace in reading from my favourite books of inspiration, various sources of the word of God, muffled prayers ...and even in my tears. Everyone of the above approaches helped in differing capacities, and I would eventually drift off to sleep with some level of peace restored to my heart.
On one of those nights, I was also inspired to write down the thoughts I was having which gave me some comfort just before I went back to sleep. I did this for two reasons... 1. So as to be able to refrence them later in the day and check if they still made sense with the sun shining and ...2. To be able to share at some later date for the benefit of someone who may be experiencing some form of loss. Below are the exact words I wrote that night, straight from my heart...
" Whenever I have longed deeply for something and did not get it, or lost something that I truly cherished, I always find myself going back to re-thinking what really matters in this life; Asking myself questions like, did God really put me on earth only for the sake of this thing, whose absence or lack of now causes me so much pain? You could say this is a coping mechanism, but I'll admit that some of the most impactful and creative mindshifts/initiatives in my life came out of such moments. So...I'm going to try and keep this thought in mind; that when I feel the most let down by my longings, desires or wishes,
that's when I am pushed to dig deep and pull from certain dormant resources that exist within me, often with further reaching impact than my hitherto prioritised self.
Perhaps, Loss if looked at from a different perspective, helps us birth renewal and transformation...and were that the case, we could therefore say that- Loss, in it's taking away, forces us to consider the truly essential, by peeling away the comforting layers which cocoon us in our untapped potential"
The above write up from that night, still made a lot of sense to me the next day when the sun was out in the sky, so on that basis i figured it deserved to be shared, maybe it'll be usefull or maybe not, either ways, I've kept my own end of this particular bargain.
Just as an added favour though, I have also shared in this post, 3 quotes that have helped me in the past and continue to help me deal with loss.
1. "Everything can be taken from a man but one thing, the last of the human freedoms: To choose ones attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose ones own way" - Victor Frankl
2. "Never let the furture disturb you. You will meet it if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present" - Marcus Aurelius
3. "Don't use your energy to worry. Use your energy to believe" - Anonymous
Cheers to open minds!
